Nobody Has a Responsibility to Come Out
When I heard that the topic of the blog carnival hosted at Writing From Factor Xwould be about coming out, I was a little dismayed. I’ve likened National Coming Out Day to Valentine’s Day before, and I think with good reason. I’ve become so tired of hearing people harping on the importance of coming out, especially qualified, as it so often is in the asexual community, with some kind of statement like, “Of course, coming out for asexuals is easy, all we really have to deal with is people saying annoying things.” So, I don’t much like to talk about it.
That is demonstrably untrue, by the way. And if the only responses you’ve received when you came out were just a little bit annoying? You’re a lucky one. Not everyone has it so easy, and it’s a privilege to be surprised that they don’t.
Really though, I think that many of the responses that people categorize as “annoying” are actually instances of emotionally abusive statements that go unrecognized for what they are due to a “sticks and stones” tough attitude that many people have. Since abuse is often thought of as only physical, it’s often hard to recognize it when it happens, especially when society agrees with the sentiment. One single instance is relatively easy to brush off, but the cumulative effect of the majority of people claiming that “there must be something wrong with you” is not.
The other day, Rachel Maddow said this:
I’ve long held three basic beliefs about the ethics of coming out:
- Gay people — generally speaking — have a responsibility to our own community and to future generations of gay people to come out, if and when we feel that we can.
- We should all get to decide for ourselves the “if and when we feel that we can” part of that.
- Closeted people should reasonably expect to be outed by other gay people if (and only if) they prey on the gay community in public, but are secretly gay themselves.
I also believe that coming out makes for a happier life, but that’s not a matter of ethics, that’s just corny advice.
Now, I’d agree on numbers two and three, but that’s it. Frankly, I think it’s very naive to assume that coming out would make everyone’s lives happier. Some people (and I wouldn’t say it’s impossible that any asexuals are among them, even if I’ve never heard of such a case to date) actually lose their lives after coming out, and I think it’s good to keep that in mind. I found Lena Chen’s response to Maddow’s statement particularly on-point. Much as I usually admire and appreciate the work that Maddow does, in this case I think she’s got too much privilege to see this clearly. I find it inconsistent to claim that queer people (of any stripe, including asexuals) “should all get to decide for ourselves” if/when to come out, while also claiming that we have aresponsibility to do so. Saying it’s a responsibility heaps a whole lot of pressure on people to come out, thus making number two ineffectual. If it’s really meant to be our own decision, shouldn’t it be as un-coerced as possible?
In practice, though, I do see a lot of coerced unclosetings happening throughout the queer community. Sometimes this is accomplished through persistent nagging and guilt-tripping. Sometimes people just tell others without their permission. Sometimes it’s a case of a significant other going, “I won’t let you tell your family I’m your friend.” That last case is the only time that I think this kind of behavior is marginally acceptable, because it does affect the significant other’s life too, but even then, it has to be handled delicately.
And you know what? I don’t see all that much of a difference between people saying that queer people have a responsibility to their community to come out, and people saying that married people have a responsibility to their spouses to have sex. Education of the privileged about the lives of the marginalized, like sex, should be a freely given gift. Turning it into a duty makes that gift meaningless.
The asexual community, being invisible and obscure, does need people who are willing to educate others, spread awareness of our existence. But you know what? There are enough people who freely volunteer to do that. We don’t needto make it a responsibility. So let’s try to avoid that mindset.
Very interesting comments on coming out. Thoughts?
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Canadian officials wonder whether coming out is necessary in politics
Are gay politicians required to come out of the closet?
A member of the Ontario legislature is creating some buzz by publicly sharing his stance that there’s no reason for LGBT politicians to stay closeted anymore.
This comes in response to the suicide of Jamie Hubley, a gay teenager who had been bullied. Canadian politicians made a video for the It Gets Better campaign after Hubley’s suicide, but it drew criticism from people who called them hypocrites, citing their party’s anti-gay voting records.
This is just one example of a time and place where it could really help for a politician to be open about being gay. LGBT kids need role models, and it’s a lot easier to listen to someone telling you it’ll get better if they experienced it themselves.
Are gay politicians required to come out?
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UK Gay Men Blood Donation Ban Lifted
Gay men will now be able to give blood as Government restrictions are officially lifted, the Department of Health (DoH) said.
A lifetime ban on blood donation by men who had had sex with another man was put in place in the UK in the 1980s as a response to the spread of Aids and HIV.
But following a review by the Advisory Committee on the Safety of Blood, Tissues and Organs (Sabto), men who have not had homosexual sex within a year will be able to donate if they meet certain other criteria. The move will be implemented in England, Scotland and Wales.
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Genital Integrity and Intersex.
They account for 1 in every 2,000 births - that’s about 34,000 births per dayglobally. You probably know them as hermaphrodites. What you probably don’t know is…well, pretty much anything to do with them. To start, “hermaphrodite” is not an acceptable modern term, and is largely considered offensive. I will only mention in passing terms that every person knows are offensive - shemale, he-she, “it” - to point out that I will not tolerate those terms if you want to address this post, regardless of who you are in my life. The most widespread term is intersex, though I have heard that some groups do find this to be distasteful as well. I will be using this term the most, but will gladly take corrections. Second, intersex genitalia and identities are completely varied - it would be a daunting task to try and categorize and list all the different physical forms that they take. And, as you will glean from the spirit of this post, it shouldn’t really be necessary - it’s none of your business unless that individual wants to make it your business. Third - and perhaps most importantly - there is nothing wrong with intersex people. They are not deformed or misshapen.
Intersex has always existed. Every ancient culture has legends, references, and stories about them. In many cultures, they were revered - a big difference from our “modern” world where they are shamed, mutilated, and hidden from mainstream society. They are seen in art and mythology from almost every time period. However, in the 1950’s, a psychologist from Johns Hopkins came up with a theory: that these people had something wrong with them that could, should, and had to be cured through the forced integration, both via surgery and environment, into a “proper” gender - that is to say, male or female. The theory went something along the lines of “we’ll just change this infant into whatever we think they should be, based on which gender it is easiest to assign through surgery, then never tell this individual what happened, maybe move to a new town, and raise that intersex person to be the gender we guessed was correct for them. But, as charming as that idea sounded… it didn’t work. What happened instead was essentially a giant calamity, a series of extremely scarring and often debilitating practices, a generation of gender shame, and then… and then they were forgotten by society. To putting the icing on the cake, after this pile of complete and utter failure on a humanitarian and social front, we decided to keep on doing it anyway, right up until the present.
Why? Why do we feel the need to do this? As there is with every common genital mutilation practice, the culprits are familiar to us: parental fear, societal pressure, and misleading, incorrect, and biased medical practices. I mean, think about it for a moment - other than life threatening situations, what would ever make it okay in anyone’s mind to take a knife (or often a series of knives over decade long periods) to someone’s genitals? Penis, vagina, both, neither - why would you ever take a knife to such a private, sensitive area? And more importantly, who would ever consent to such a thing? The answer is, generously speaking - almost no one. But consent isn’t an issue here. Consent is taken completely out of the picture. Rather than let that individual grow, develop, learn, and make such choices as they see fit as a consenting, informed adult, we just willy nilly cut up babies’ privates because it seems like a good idea at the time. Are you noticing here that a key word is consent?
Parents are afraid. More often than not, they are afraid on behalf of their child - this little being they have brought forth into the world, who they have loved for nine months before they ever say it’s face. Then a doctor comes in and tell you there’s something wrong with your baby. But don’t worry, a few snips and your child will have a normal life. And, you best be sure, it’s life will not be normal unless it’s genitals look like everyone else’s. So the doctor whisks the baby away, assuming that this practice, which he has been taught all his years in medicine, is in fact the right one. We can’t even consider differently. After all, there are only two genders - boys and girls, blue and pink, penis and vagina. Unfortunately, it is often the case that the doctor guesses wrong - actually, this is pretty much the constant. So in two or three years, a new doctor goes, “Oops, my bad, we’ll fix that right up.” Maggie becomes Jim, the surgeries continue, and still, no one speaks up. Then comes puberty. Jim realizes that he doesn’t feel like a Jim, he feels like a Maggie - or maybe not a Maggie at all, maybe a gender neutral, asexual Morgan, or Alex, or Chris. But now, even though “Jim” is starting to decide for “himself” who “he” is, it’s too late - “his” parents, doctors, and society have already done largely irreparable damage to something that should have just been left alone in the first place. All because something didn’t “look right.”
Now this person may need more surgeries - not to make things right; that’s often impossible - but to repair damaged tissues, to repair things that the doctor broke. Now this person is unable to be comfortably sexually intimate - either because their nerves that would have given them pleasure have been too damaged or removed, or because they are simply too ashamed of what’s going on downstairs. This person is often psychologically damaged, has identity problems, feels of shame, guilt, segregation, and isolation from every other person in the world. Because it is not socially acceptable to talk about intersex, let alone be intersex, this person is sure there is no one else like them. Many don’t survive these struggles. These are the silent suicides. For those who survive these struggles, life is still harder than it should be. They must either hide who and what they are, or be persecuted and mocked while living an open, honest life.
Those who were not damaged at birth - those who’s parents and/or doctors decided it was better to leave nature alone - are not miserable. They generally have successful, content lives. Those who are not naturally asexual often have completely healthy sex lives. They take a gender assignment that works for them - male, female, both, neither. Many get married. Many have children. Of course, this cannot be said for all people - life isn’t easy, and even less so for those who are “different.” Some require hormone treatments - for their health. For the health of their body, not for a societal standard. Not for a gender binary. But it is important to point out that these people - no people - should be or are definable based on what is between their legs, and it is no one else’s right to tamper with something as important as their sexual and gender identity.
So what can you do? Where should you stand? If you aren’t sure, play it safe - let each individual decide for themselves as a consenting adult, and not a moment sooner, nor by any other person’s views or logic. Educate yourself and others. Do not support the genital mutilation of perfectly healthy - if slightly less average - infants.
I realize I don’t address intersex genital mutilation on this blog very much. If anyone would like to share anything with me regarding it, please go ahead!
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The Kids Are Listening: LGBTQ Foster Youth.
I saw this a few months ago and it still gets to me. People against anti-bullying education in schools, are as guilty as the bullies when kids hurt or kill themselves. Christian parents don’t want their children taught that it’s not ok to bully a child based on their sexual orientation. Why would they? They have the backing of the bible that teaches them that homosexuality in a sin. They stand by their children when theY verbally and physically abuse LGBTQA kids. This is the shit that pisses me off the most about Christians. The hypocrisy is overwhelming.
This is a pretty cool ad campaign. :)
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Coming Out Twice : Sexuality and Gender in Islam | Religion Dispatches
A Conversation with Scott Kugle
August 24, 2011
As scholar Scott Kugle knows well, to be both Muslim and gay means the possibility of having to “come out twice”—with the likely chance of encountering either homophobia or Islamophobia (or both), depending on the context.
But in recent years, a new discussion of Islam and sexuality has emerged, led in large part by professor Kugle, who teaches South Asian and Islamic Studies at Emory University. Having written many books on Islam, including Homosexuality in Islam: Islamic Reflection on Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Muslims (2010), he is currently working on a collection entitled Voices of Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Muslim Activists (forthcoming in 2012, NYU Press).
Susan Henking: As you know, when Gary David Comstock and I published Que(e)rying Religion: A Critical Anthology in 1997 it was not easy to find material on Islam and homosexuality, so I was thrilled to learn of your work. What do you think explains the shift?
Scott Kugle: The field of Islamic Studies has changed drastically over the past two decades, and new conditions within this field of study have made it easier to do research and write about homosexuality and transgender behavior in Islam. I’m speaking of the United States academy here, but similar things were happening in the global network of university inquiry.
Islamic Studies used to happen under the rubric of “Orientalist Studies” which was mainly philological and text-based, and was carefully sealed off from wider currents of cultural criticism. But in the 1980s, scholars began to take Islamic Studies out of this narrow field and merge it more with Religious Studies, connected to wider intellectual trends like feminism, interfaith dialogue, and progressive political analysis. In the 1990s, this yielded a new intellectual climate. Mature scholars trained in Islamic Studies and textual traditions began to make bolder inquiries, and homosexuality was no longer considered a taboo subject; so for instance we see the books and articles of Everett Rowson (such as “The Effeminates of Medina” which you published in Que(e)rying Religion) who is a scholar of Arabic literature and Middle Eastern Studies.
At the same time, a younger generation of graduate students were coming of age, pursuing research in a climate in which inquiry into sexuality and gender was no longer seen as risqué. In this younger generation were also an increasing number of Muslim students (from Muslim family backgrounds and also from convert backgrounds) who brought Islamic Studies into closer dialogue with Religious Studies and began to question the divide between “studying religion” and “living religion.”
That said, it was really non-Muslim scholars who broke open the field. I remember the thrill of buying the book Islamic Homosexualities edited by Stephen Murray and Will Roscoe in 1996, when I was a graduate student at Duke University and had recently accepted Islam. It was the first book that addressed the topic, though admittedly it was from an anthropological perspective that showed great naiveté and even ignorance about Islam as a religious tradition. Still, it existed between two covers! It opened the doors, and invited others to begin publishing… as much to correct its misperceptions as to emulate its boldness. Then J. W. Wright and Everett Rowson’s edited collection Homoeroticism in Classical Arabic Literature (1997) showed how much literature in Arabic addressed questions of same-sex attraction, if only researchers would open their eyes to it. Yehuda Schofer and Arno Schmitt also contributed to this dialogue.
What was missing was a more intimate engagement with the religious tradition of Islam. This came with feminist Muslim scholars. They provided the techniques of skeptically critical yet faithfully engaged scholarship that nurtured a next generation of scholars. There was the cautiously secular approach of Leila Ahmed and the audaciously zealous approach of Amina Wadud; both styles of feminism provided tools and perspectives for sexuality-sensitive scholars to appraise the religious tradition of Islam from within.
So, Homosexuality in Islam was published in 2010. Beyond what you’ve already described, what inspired you to write it?
That book was a long time in the writing. The process actually began in 2002. After 9/11 a group of scholar-activists came together to discuss our reactions to the attacks and the patriotic chauvinism that followed it in the USA. We were mainly Muslim scholars who worked together through the American Academy of Religion. Omid Safi suggested that we each contribute an essay to a book entitled Progressive Muslims: on Gender, Justice and Pluralism (2003) in order to publish our stance (political, cultural and theological) as progressive Muslims. For that volume, I decided to write an essay on homosexuality in Islam.
I was frankly afraid of doing it, being uncertain of what its ramifications would be for my position as a young professor without tenure, and as a Muslim convert in Islamic communities in North America who were by and large not open to acknowledging homosexual women and men in their midst. But the enormity of the 9/11 crimes and the pressures that Muslim communities in the USA were placed under after this convinced me to put aside self-centered concerns and write for the greater good. We all felt that “extremists and reactionaries” had hijacked Islam, and that we needed to speak boldly (and write furiously) to do our part—however small it might be—to take Islam back.
In that essay, I was basically “coming out” twice. I was coming out as a Muslim believer to my Academic colleagues. I was coming out as a gay man to my Muslim fellows. Neither position was very comfortable. So to do both at once was very foolish. Yet, I never regret it.
That book was a great success. It was widely discussed, and we were surprised that it galvanized the support of a wide spectrum of Muslims who had been largely silent. After that, many progressive-minded Muslims (within the academy and beyond) began to speak up with new boldness. But many mainstream Muslim groups expressed discomfort (often in the form of keeping silent) about my contribution, entitled “Sexuality, Diversity and Ethics in the Agenda of Progressive Muslims.” There were offers to publish translations of the book in Arabic or Turkish… if only my chapter was left out. To the great credit of the editor and publisher, these compromises were not made. The book today exists only in English, but my chapter is in an integral part of it, and stands unrepudiated, even if unpopular.
At the same time, I became involved in a community-based support group for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, intersex, queer and questioning Muslims. This support group for LGBTIQ Muslims was called Al-Fatiha Foundation and it organized yearly conferences and retreats. Through it, I met other scholars and activists who were thinking along the same lines as myself. I discovered that I was not thinking alone! There was a collective effort, and many of us were advancing similar interpretations of Qur’anic scripture to create a “gay-affirming” interpretation of Islam.
That initial essay of 2003 did attract criticism from other Muslim scholars. I was called a Mu`tazili, a brand of rationalist theologians in early medieval Islam who were branded as heretics. I took that as a compliment, but also as a misreading of my stance. I found that there was an on-line boycott (among some Muslim groups) of my books, even those which did not deal with homosexuality at all!
These critiques incited me to write more, based on deeper theological research. By 2003, I had decided to seek help to enable me to do this. I applied for a research fellowship at the Institute for the Study of Islam in the Modern World in the Netherlands. They generously gave me a two-year fellowship. So in 2004, I left my teaching position at Swarthmore College, which I dearly loved, and moved to the Netherlands to pursue two years of research and writing. I was determined to produce a full book that would include a study of hadith and also Islamic law and ethics. Homosexuality in Islam was published only in 2010, but it was written during that two-year period, from 2004-6.
That grant allowed me to also interview activists who are LGBTIQ Muslims in South Africa, the Netherlands, Britain, USA and Canada. I am now preparing a book that features their interviews, to show both the variety of activist activities they engage in and the common issues that they face. That book will be published soon by NYU Press and will be entitled Voices of Gay, Lesbian and Transgender Muslim Activists.
I know you have already commented a bit on this, but can you say more about what sorts of reactions do you get within Muslim circles? From LGBT groups or people? From Muslim LGBT people and groups?
I have to admit that my perspective on reactions to the book is skewed. I only hear from those who read it and had positive reactions! Those who have negative reactions either don’t want to buy it, don’t care to read it, or have decided that silence is the more effective strategy to suppress its ideas.
Yet I am overwhelmed by the positive reactions that I hear. Many people write to me by internet to say that reading the book has saved their lives. This is the ultimate compliment, and may God bless them and me! To offer someone information and through that information they are touched with compassion, that is the ultimate reward. So many people are alienated from family and community (and even from God) that they consider suicide or fall into depression. If my book can offer them a way out of this deadly cycle, then it is a great success and I am satisfied. As the Qur’an says, “If you save the life of one person it is as if you saved all of humanity…”
Other Muslim readers have written to me saying that they are using the book to argue with their families, to present an alternative view. If the book can provide them with information and arguments to open a dialogue with their parents and elders, then it is a success. But some Muslim readers have responded that the book is too conservative; they see it as obsessed with dialogue with the tradition, Islamic law, and conservative interpretations, a dialogue which can never bear fruit. I understand their impatience, but still I feel an attempt must be made to explore the Islamic tradition itself for resources to comprehend and accept LGBTIQ people. Until that exploration is exhausted, it is too early to give up.
Finally, I am pleased to report that there are many students who are taking up the challenge posed by my book. There are graduate students now, and undergraduates too, who are doing their own research… and they are empowered by the book I wrote. Some of them disagree with me vehemently. I’m happy to hear that! As long as they learn from the techniques of inquiry that I explain in my book, I am happy to see my conclusions challenged. In the next decade, we can look forward to a real flowering of studies of sexual orientation and gender identity in an Islamic framework.
Do you see the work as having relevance to contemporary struggles in Muslim majority countries?
My book was written for Muslims in secular democratic states (the so-called West) who mainly live as a small religious minority. They enjoy access to education and legal rights that allow them to think critically and act independent of their families, in many circumstances. The book was written with them in mind.
But it is also written to address universal issues for Muslims, and the arguments about gender and sexuality that originate in the West have great relevance for arguments that happen in a quieter way in Muslim-majority countries. Access to my book is limited in Muslim-majority countries (and this true generally of progressive and feminist Muslim scholarship from the West). It is limited by language, and by economic access, and by political censorship.
Some people from Muslim-majority countries have written to me asking if they can purchase the book as an internet file or an e-book, because their country censors book purchases and deliveries through the post. I have not yet worked this out with the publisher Oneworld Publications, but hope to do so, considering the political situation in many Muslim-majority countries and the tenuous privacy that people have within their families.
I believe that—for better or for worse—Muslims in the West have a privileged place in this progressive dialogue. The opinions expressed by Muslims in the USA, Canada, Europe, and South Africa have a great impact on the international dialogue. I hope more US-based Muslims will take up this challenge, acknowledging the gift of freedom and legal rights that God has given them in their residence here.
In the book you “posit that there are real categories of people who can be called gay, lesbian, and transgender” and focus on what you call dispositional homosexuality. Why is this important?
This argument is a legacy of the last two decades of academic debate about the epistemological category of sexuality orientation. It is often called the “essentialist/constructivist” debate. There was a tendency in academic circles to embrace an extreme “constructivist” position, with Michel Foucault as a constant reference. There were “essentialist” hold-outs like John Boswell and Bernadette Brouten, who maintained the usefulness of “homosexual” as a category that describes a class of people across the divide of era, region or culture. I tend to agree with Boswell and Brouten. I see much of the “Queer Theory” debate in a constructivist mode as an academic enterprise that is good for making careers in the university but is not so good at affecting the rights of real people in situations of vulnerability and struggle. I try to balance the urgency of activism with the accuracy of scholarship, and I do believe that a good balance can be achieved.
That’s an area where I like the both/and approach myself—or better yet, Gayatri Spivak’s notion of “strategic essentialism”—when expedient for purposes of justice! Not unrelatedly, I was startled to learn that the Ayatollah Khomeini favored sex reassignment surgery in some circumstances—and yet find this matches the controversies about sex reassignment, on the one hand, as re-instantiating gender binaries and on the other hand as liberating. Sometimes I experience sex reassignment surgery as a conservative alternative and sometimes liberating. Do you find this a bit puzzling too?
In the USA, we are so used to demonizing Ayatollah Khomeini that we often fail to see the more creative and constructive aspects of his life and political rule. Not that I’m a supporter of his Islamic Revolution in Iran, mind you! But nobody is a demon.
Ayatollah Khomeini made a decision that sex-reassignment surgery was Islamically permissible, if and when the “real gender” of the person could be determined beneath any anatomical or psychological ambiguity. This is a potentially progressive Islamic stance! Much has been written about this by journalists and scholars, most effectively by Afsaneh Najmabadi. She states rightly that this decision is potentially liberating for transgender people, but it is effectively debilitating for homosexual men. (For more on her views, click here.) Often in Iran gay men are pushed toward gender reassignment surgery as a “cure” for their sexual orientation: if a man feels attraction for another man then he should become a woman so that this attraction is no longer subversive of the social order, you see?
In the USA, there is often tolerance for homosexuals but bafflement or hostility toward transgender people… but in Iran, the policies but in place by Ayatollah Khomeini have the opposite effect and often transgender people are accepted if they move toward surgical reassignment while homosexuals are oppressed. There is no ideal place, only contrasting shades of gray.
You take up the issue of marriage in Homosexuality in Islam. And, of course this is a big issue in today’s news. I admit I sometimes find the marriage equality movement—and the movement for inclusion in the military—paradoxical. On the one hand, of course I want the full rights of citizenship and I am lucky enough to be living in New York! On the other hand, I think of these as two very conservative institutions that got critiqued in serious ways by progressives in my lifetime. Is the best world we can imagine one where LGBT persons can join these two problematic institutions?
I agree with you on this. But I see the issue of marriage equality as an important indication of human rights and social tolerance. I favor marriage equality because those who want to marry deserve the chance to do so, whether they have opposite-gender partners or same-gender partners. And I will fight so that they have this right and have equality before the law.
That said, marriage itself is a bourgeois institution that is as much about property, child legitimacy, and taxation as it is about love. Not everyone who is LGBTIQ will find fulfillment in marriage, even if it is legalized. It is one thing to advocate that LGBTIQ people should be able to marry… and it is quite another to claim that they must or that they should be married!
Still, in the current climate of the USA, it is crucial to fight for the right of all people to marry the partner of choice, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation. It establishes a legal principle that will affect many other more universal and quotidian issues of rights and capabilities. Among LGBTIQ Muslims, there are some who want to marry in an Islamic ceremony (nikah), and they should have the means to do so. That is an important symbolic statement. In the last decade, there have been many such ceremonies in the USA, out of the limelight and beyond the reach of the media.
In my opinion, one should support the right to all people to marry, even one does not want to marry. In the same way, one should support the right of all people to serve in the military without discrimination based on gender or sexual orientation, even if one would never want to serve in the military (or even opposes the existence of the military!). And one should support anti-discrimination measures within big corporations or banks, even if one despises the financial shenanigans of such organizations. This is a question of political strategy, not radically idealism. We need to get realistic about what battles to fight first, and which to prepare for later on.
In your work, you adopt what you call a liberation theology approach combined with traditional modes of Islamic argumentation. Would you say that there are possibilities for alliance building across more “progressive” forms of religions insofar as they take history and culture into account or not so much?
Liberation theology is a power set of tools and approaches within any religion. It refers to internal reform of a religious tradition in order to consciously align the religious beliefs and practices toward the goal of stopping oppression, protecting the vulnerable, and advancing a progressive political agenda.
The term is mainly related to the Catholic Church, as many lay-leaders and some church authorities organized a progressive and radical critique of the Church’s institution in Latin America. The term then spread to Protestant Churches, in the civil rights movement in North America and to the anti-Apartheid movement in South Africa. It is also used in Buddhist communities when religious belief is coupled with desire for radical social change through nonviolent means and/or forceful civic protest.
There are scholars who use the term liberation theology to describe progressive approaches to Islamic belief and practice. Amina Wadud and Asma Barlas are good examples in the field of feminism in Islam. Farid Esack and Asghar Ali Engineer are good examples in Islamic politics against racial oppression, poverty and exploitation. In Islam, many scholars and activists use the word “reform” or “revival” rather than liberation theology, because the later term sounds too much like it was borrowed from Christianity and that might be a liability for an indigenously Islamic project. In this sense, the legal scholar and reformer Khalid Abou El Fadl does “liberation theology” from within the Islamic tradition without actually calling it that.
Among LGBTIQ Muslims, there are many who talk about liberation from oppression, but few who identify as “liberation theologians.” Yet liberation theology is exactly what they are doing, in an organic sense. They are building community, addressing marginalization, empowering lay-leaders, and challenging entrenched power structures within their religious institutions. I thought that it was important in my book to acknowledge that what I am doing is liberation theology, linked to a past tradition and a movement that has manifestations in many religions.
LGBTIQ people in other religious traditions are doing similar work, and Muslims can support them and learn from them in their shared goals. Often the obstacles and the tools to overcome them are similar, even if the religious traditions may differ. There is great potential for coalition building especially with Jews and Christians, since the Islamic tradition shares many features with these other Abrahamic faiths. I recently attended an interfaith gathering in Atlanta of Christian, Jewish and Muslim religious leaders, who were called to address the question of whether their faith and institutions accept and include LGBTIQ people from their respective communities.
Faisal Alam, the founder of Al-Fatiha Foundation, was invited to speak from a Muslim perspective; a local mosque leader who is a medical doctor was invited to represent mainstream Muslim institutions. They disagreed with each other, but did so respectfully and with tact. It seemed that the LGBTIQ people of whatever religion had more in common with each other than they did with their co-religionists. The obstacles that they face are so similar—rooted more in cultural prejudice, patriarchal power, and masculine fear than in actual religious beliefs—that their personal viewpoints are similar as well.
I hope that Christian and Jewish groups, who have more resources and institutions at their disposal in North America, can reach out more to include Muslims in such discussion, and to offer help as fledgling Muslims groups with progressive values try to organize, often again considerable pressure from their own religious leaders. Often Christians and Jews think of Muslims as somehow exceptional—as if Muslims are somehow so different that they cannot be called to a common podium to speak. Yet Muslim communities are going through crises and internal debates now that Christian and Jewish communities have already passed through decades ago… and a few decades is really not such a long time.
Thank you so much for everything you have shared with us today. I want to end with a question I will ask everyone I interview for Religion Dispatches: If you were to imagine the future—or to imagine the most hopeful future—what would the impact of your most recent book be? And how would our world be different?
Of course, books don’t change the world. But they can help to change people’s minds, and that can change the world, slowly and gradually.
I have three great hopes for the future, when I consider the possible effects my book might have. The first is that it might empower LGBTIQ Muslims to reconnect with their faith. That connection is very powerful and it can give them great strength and moral resources to stand up to the oppression and abuse that they often suffer from the hands of religious leaders, family elders and community authorities. Often LGBTIQ Muslims get estranged from their faith because they are struggling with their parents’ expectations, and parental authority become fused in their minds with religion. Many of them take a secular turn or feel unable to worship, even on an individual level… or they can even feel that God has rejected them. Such attitudes can lead to despair and a deep sense of loss. On the other hand, if they can manage to reconnect with their faith in a personal and spiritual way, this can give them great endurance, resilience and hope which are all necessary virtues to survive the hardships that they face. It certainly has worked that way for me.
The second hope I have is that the book will be read by the Muslim parents family and friends of LGBTIQ folks. The book lays out an alternative to prejudice and rejection of LGBTIQ Muslims, and that alternative is based on Islamic sources and principles. Some readers might find it “conservative” in its adherence to religious sources. But the hope is that this appeal to the religion for tolerance from within will actually appeal to the parents of LGBTIQ Muslims, who actually suffer from oppressing and marginalizing their children. If the dynamic between parent and child changes, then there are seeds for change in the wider Muslim community. Many people expect dialogue and debate to begin with Imam and mosque leaders, but these will be the last to change their attitude and practice. Change will start first within the hearts of LGBTIQ Muslims, and then within their own families. I have heard some anecdotal evidence from email correspondence that in fact this is happening, slowly, one parent at a time.
The third hope I have is that the book will remove the veil of fear from an emerging generation of scholars and writers. I hope it will inspire and enable them to do their own research and write their own books. They will not agree with me, I’m sure—but I want them to say that my book paved the way for others. I have published Homosexuality in Islam from a perspective within the faith and for those with faith. I wrote it in my own name. I was not threatened. I was not attacked. I was not killed. I did not suffer professional setbacks. Perhaps I was ignored and perhaps I was shunned, but one can live with that! The point is that there is so much more research to do, and Islamic theology offers rich resources and spiritual insights that are yet to be uncovered and articulated. That is a great challenge for the future.
I learn each year of university students doing papers, and Masters degree students writing thesis, or Ph.D. scholars-in-the-making writing dissertations about Islam from the perspective of sexuality and gender identity issues. I find it amazing that they read my book and gain a sense of empowerment to do their own work. That is what we call, in the Islamic tradition, a sadaqa jariya, a gift that keeps giving benefit even after the giver has passed away. I hope my book is a sadaqa jariya.
Susan Henking is Professor of Religious Studies at Hobart and William Smith Colleges in Geneva, NY—coordinate colleges for women (William Smith) and men (Hobart College). Her work focuses on theories of religion as well as religion in relation to gender and sexuality. She is co-editor, with Gary David Comstock, of Que(e)rying Religion (1997) and, with William Parsons and Diane Jonte Pace, of Mourning Religion. She also writes on higher education. The views shared here are, of course, not those of her employer, Hobart and William Smith Colleges, but of Susan Henking.
Image: Cover of Scott Siraj al-Haqq Kugle’s book Homosexuality in Islam: Islamic Reflection on Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Muslims.
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Straight Americans need an education of the heart and soul. They must understand how it can feel to spend years denying your own deepest truths, to sit silently through classes, meals, and church services while people you love toss off remarks that brutalize your soul.
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Where’s the “Beauty” in the “Beauty Industry”?
So when I am not blogging or in school, I work at a beauty supply. I work there because I grew up with a hair stylist as a mother and have always worked in spas and salons; anywhere that has to do with “making yourself beautiful”.
As I continue to blog and continue to go to school, pursuing all that I am hoping to, I continue to see through the fallacies of the beauty stories we have all been told - and I don’t feel good about it.
Every day I help women who are going through the exquisite aging process purchase products that help diminish or mask or promise to turn back the hands of time because aging is considered ugly. I help woman buy bleach and peroxide to die their hair because only blondes are thought to be beautiful. I help women buy makeup because their faces without it are shameful. I actively perpetuate the ideas of false beauty and I am paid for it. For this I feel like a fraud.
South Orange County has a very particular “beauty story”. There is a reason shows like The OC, The Laguna Beach Show and The Orange County Housewives are made. Plastic surgery, bleach blonde hair, Botox, luxury cars, and the privileged white lifestyle are all the rage. Don’t forget the floods of church bumper stickers, American flags and ivy league school pride.
Recently, a person came into the store while we were slightly busy. As they entered the store, all the other customers stopped to stare. The person was gay, genderqueer and had modified their face through plastic surgery. Their hair was long and in a pony tail and they wore lip gloss. I ignored everyone’s reaction and asked how the person was doing. They let me know they were there to talk to my managers about a new make up line we were going to be selling. We got to talking and I found out they lived in LA. We talked about the city, favorite restaurants etc. The conversation was delightful. At one point during our short chat, a cis man in the store left because he was so uncomfortable and I couldn’t believe it. He literally put his items on the counter and walked out of the store while staring at us.
Why is someone who does not adhere to a particular “beauty story” so perplexing? Perplexing enough to leave a store or a restaurant or a park? Why does it make people so uncomfortable to see other people who express an alternative story - a story that suits their authentic self, their authentic joys and concepts of beauty?
I don’t think everyone staring at the make-up rep was a reflection upon the make-up rep, but a reflection upon those that were staring. If seeing a gay couple or someone who is trans* or someone who is genderqueer or someone who is covered in piercings or someone who is Gothic or someone who is pregnant without a wedding ring on - if seeing someone who is not adhering to the cultural story you have been told all your life as to what is considered right and wrong, beautiful and ugly causes you to stare or to get up and leave, then that is not a reflection of those that you judge, it is reflection of you and the story you are choosing to believe in.
I choose to look at my job as an opportunity to observe and listen. I try and see the patterns in the cultural stories and listen to what every person I help tells me. I am a firm believer that once you know the root of an issue you can create a solution. Working within the beauty industry is an opportunity for me to further my own education about what men and women believe and don’t believe about themselves and the world around them. Hopefully I can use my experience within the “beauty industry” to become a better educator.




