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Safe Sex Moment: A Condom DO and DON’T

Because I’ll always be a sex educator and I can’t resist real-life teaching moments, I wanted to remind everyone about the first step of condom use: check the package!!

The ones on the left have been living in a pocket, or a car, or someplace that has clearly compromised the package…which means it is likely the latex is compromised as well.  Body heat or extreme temperatures required to break down this packaging so much (the label is literally falling off the foil) would also weaken the latex, and thereby the efficacy of the condom.  

The one on the right has just come out of the box. There is a good bubble of air inside the packet, meaning neither the package nor the condom has been punctured. There is also a clear expiration date, which doesn’t arrive for several more years.

While even a degraded one may be better than none at all, if at all possible DON’T use the old crusty condoms! They are more prone to breakage, which means you are NOT protected from STDs, HIV, pregnancy, etc.

I am really confused on how to tell the difference between the proper side of the condom and when it is inside out. how do you tell the difference? they both seem the same to me!

A question by Anonymous

The direction of the rolling will tell you if you’re using the correct side. The condom should easily roll down the shaft of the penis/vibrator/dildo - so the roll should be on the outside and unravel counterclockwise down towards the base of the penis/vibrator/dildo. If you start off incorrectly, you’ll need to use another condom. If the condom is lubricated, you can also tell because the lubricant should be on the outside of the condom. This is a really great “how-to" resource for condoms. 

Would a female condom be good for anal sex in your opinion?

A question by thehappyfatgayguy

Yes(ish)  - Vaginal condoms aren’t made for the anal anatomy, so the jury is still out on whether or not it is a viable alternative barrier method for anal sex. In addition, I think a penile condom is far easier to use, particularly “in the moment”. A vaginal condom needs to have some level of premeditation involved and sex isn’t always planned. Ultimately, it comes down to preference - what feels best and suits you and your partners(s) needs. (The link I provided is a great how-to resource)

Quick question. I have had sex twice and have used a condom both times. The condoms have spermicide and my partner pulled out too. We used them correctly and they did not break. Pregnancy is a very slight chance, correct? And also, is it true that spermicide is for if the condom breaks and is like a back up plan just in case? thanks xx. your blog is great.

A question by Anonymous

Thank you for the love! Regarding your questions: when condoms are used consistently and correctly, which it sounds like you have done, they are highly effective in preventing unwanted pregnancy. The spermicide in the condom does assist in pregnancy prevention, but can actually increase your chances of infection and contracting STD’s. I always like to steer people away from using spermicidal condoms because of this. If you want to protect yourself further from unwanted pregnancy, continue to use condoms (non-spermicidal) and consider choosing an additional birth control method that better suits your needs

How effective are sheepskin condoms?

A question by Anonymous

Sheepskin condoms protect against unwanted pregnancy, but are not recommended to protect against STDs because they are porous and viruses can pass through. 

where can i get female condoms? do they sell them in stores?

A question by Anonymous

You should definitely be able to buy them in your local drugstore, like Walgreens (if you’re in the States). If they aren’t available to you in those types of stores, you can buy them online like here and here 

How to use a female condom - animated video!

Friday 9/9/11 - Links Roundup - Safe Sex, Condoms & Sex Education


Happy Friday ONE condom admirers! At ONE, our goal is to keep you up to date on anything sex related this past week.  The following is a list of current events and news regarding safe sex, sex education, relationship advice, and condoms.

Here are some up to the minute stories to help keep you protected for the week of Sept. 5th and into the weekend. Stay tuned in every friday for more of the latest in sexual health news with ONE condoms.

Safe Sex

Viagra condom for longer erection, safe sex

Adult film industry must mandate safe sex

Op-Ed: The ugly truth about condoms and ‘safe sex’

Staff Editorial: Coming male birth control no substitute for safe sex life

Gay men can give blood later this year

Safe homes are Solano County’s goal

Schools adjust sexual assault policies for new federal guidelines

Parents’ role when teen starts dating

Sex abuse survivor speaks out against keeping secrets

100 Years Of Sex: San Francisco City Clinic Celebrates Safe Sex …


At Art Hop fashion show, jewelry has makes a statement

Porn industry blasts condom campaign

Porn’s New HIV Problem

Cost in abortion case ‘could pay for quarter of a million condoms’

Protecting Adolescent Girls from Unwanted Unprotected Sex

From Condoms to the Pill: Trust, Control and Violence

B Holding Group Teams Up With Greater Than AIDS for First Annual HBCU

Sex and chocolate: Utah kids know a lot about one, not the other

Sex Education

Sex Ed and More in the Sperm Donor Age

Stripper-Porn Star Allowed to Teach Sex Ed Again

China Sex Ed Dolls: Kindergarten Class Uses Realistic Dolls To Teach Sexual …

Parents to review faults in abstinence-only Austin LifeGuard sex ed program …

Rick Perry and educated sex

Friday 8/19/11 Links Roundup - Safe Sex, Condoms & Sex Education



Good Afternoon condom connoisseurs. Today is Friday and that means it’s time for your weekly links roundup from ONE Condoms. ONE is here to keep you in the know with  with anything related to sex education, condom use, and safe sex. The following links are the most recent events in the news regarding these topics. Be sure to be safe this weekend and don’t forget to keep yourself protected by using ONE.

Safe Sex

Safe sex ad stars become parents

ACLU Lawsuit Moves to Keep Sex Offenders in House Near New Day Care Center

Examining the use of the ‘ABC safe sex’ campaign in Botswana

Pharmacy reports summer surge in visits to sexual health clinics

Cumbria sex crime victims go out of county for care

Sex FAQs: Fact or fiction?

College Dating: To Hook Up or Couple Up?

New York City Mandates Comprehensive Sex Education

Number of Nebraska same-sex couples increases since 2000

‘Sexting’ never safe

News for the Young: How Sex Can Get Better with Age

Sex Education

Should Michigan high school students learn how to use condoms?

School-Mandated Sex-Ed: It’s About Time!

Is new sex-ed text too graphic?

The sex ed hall of shame

Turks lack sex education, UNAIDS official warns

Educators: Parent Involvement Vital in Kids’ Sexuality Education


Condom Activists Push Debate At Catholic World Youth Day

The World’s First Condom Action Film

Female condoms slowly gaining popularity - report

Should You Give Condoms to Your Teen?

Love Puts Workouts on Fast Track, Study Finds

Everything Wrong With Our Country’s Sex Ed Debate, in One Infuriating Video

82% of Women Don’t Carry Condoms, Survey Finds

‘Consent, Crouch, Touch, Condom, Engage’