THE SEX UNEDUCATED

transcending-anatomy:

Someone sent in this great illustrated submission that may be helpful for some trans women and MAAB folks who are dealing with dysphoria, and for their partners.

This is an explanation of how I masturbate now. It’s completely changed the experience. For someone as dysphoric as I am, it’s a life-changer.

I discovered that curling my clit inwards prevented erections. From there it was a matter of experimentation until I found this method. There are countless other ways to position your hand, however, so I recommend women who try this experiment! As long as my clit is curled around like in panel 4 I don’t get erect, and there are lots of hot things I can do without triggering massive dysphoria. 

It does take getting used to, though, if you’re used to stimulating yourself a certain way. If you’ve masturbated one way your entire life it may take awhile to retrain your body. When I first discovered this technique I couldn’t get off using it. At the end I’d have to go back to the “traditional” method. But now it’s easy. Be patient, be persistent, and experiment. It’s worth it.

(BTW, an instructional video is currently in the works! I’ll keep you posted.)

thesexuneducatedproject:

I’ve known about homosexuality, bisexuality, trans*, etc, as long as I can remember. Growing up in an atypical family (polyamorous, two dads and one mom in a V relationship, genetically my sister is only my half-sister, but I think genes don’t define family: my dad isn’t my dad genetically, but is in all the ways that count), dialogue about love and sexuality was always free. We had a lot of contact with my lesbian aunts (turns out my biological father donated sperm to his sister’s partner), and homosexual/bisexual friends of my parents. At one point in time one of my dads couldn’t give blood anymore (my sister and I always accompanied him to the blood bank) and when we asked him why, he told us it was because when he was younger, he had once slept with another boy. I think I was about six then. I can’t really remember a ‘sex talk’ with my parents, they always talked about it when it came up. Although, I do remember a car ride, on vacation, when I was 14, when my mom told my sister and me, “do whatever you want to do with whoever you want to do it, as long as you both want it and do it safe”.  She also asked me if I even liked boys, and I said “I don’t know”.

When I was 15 I was sure that I love women. Of course, looking back, there were occasions when I definitely had a crush on a girl. I had just never analyzed or realized it, but me being me, I doubt if I would have known if I’d have had a crush on a boy. Sometimes I think my mom knowns me better than I know myself, because she knew long before I did, and I even remember her opening a dialogue about sexual orientation when I was not yet ready to tell. (Even when you are 100% certain your family accepts you, it’s still hard to come out.) I feel very lucky to have been born into a family where sexual orientation isn’t an issue, and is not seen as the defining part of your identity. 

Submitted by: Robineva

I think all the sex ed tumblrs should come together and organize a convention. There could be a meet and greet, speakers, a Q&A, workshops - we could get sponsors like bedsider, babeland etc. We could make tickets affordable and accessible. We could talk about any all things related to sex, sexuality and gender! It would be AWESOME. 

No but seriously … this is a great idea. 

peasandtrees:

After one STI presentation I did this afternoon in a public high school classroom, a young woman walked up to me and quietly spoke “I’m a lesbian, and I don’t understand. Is it possible for me to get STIs, too?” 

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