“ We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be unfollowed and defriended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings. ”
“ The kinds of bodies we see in the media directly influence the kinds of bodies that we come to value as a society, and studies have pointed to the fact that exposure to diverse body types can make us more accepting. While we still have a long way to go before the dominant idea of what’s attractive expands to include anything outside the very, very thin, we luckily have “Orange Is the New Black,” steadfastly paving the way. ”
Why The Body Diversity On ‘Orange Is The New Black’ Is So Important (Huffington Post)
Academics have developed complicated theories and obscure jargon in an effort to describe what is now referred to as structural racism, yet the concept is fairly straightforward. One theorist, Iris Marion Young, relying on a famous “birdcage” metaphor, explains it this way: If one thinks about racism by examining only one wire of the cage, or one form of disadvantage, it is difficult to understand how and why the bird is trapped. Only a large number of wires arranged in a specific way, and connected with one another, serve to enclose the bird and ensure it cannot escape.
What is particularly important to keep in mind is that any given wire of the cage may or may not be specifically developed for the purpose of trapping the bird, yet it still operates (together with other wires) to restrict its freedom.”
“ I just want to have a completely adventurous, passionate, weird life. ”
Rapists can be attractive.
Rapists can be charismatic.
Rapists can be successful, funny, and smart.
None of these things mean they are not capable of rape. But it does mean that people are more likely to ignore it, brush aside this truth, and make excuses for the rapists, because “they just don’t see it”…
Stop perpetuating the harmful stereotype, the harmful myth that rapists are all creepy dudes who hide in dark alleys or “look like they might rape you”.
You probably know a rapist.
And that rapist may be female.
You know what would be really great? If you stopped shitting on posts, and left them as they were purposefully intended, instead of derailing them. I see that is a pattern on your blog.
Instead of making yourself useful in the fight to advocate against how male rape victims may be specifically shamed in our patriarchal society, you have to go tag along to a bunch of posts people have made and write “you mean people not men”, “it happens to men too”. It happens to men is a full sentence all on its own. You don’t need to the too, and you don’t need to throw women under the bus to support women.
And guess what? My post was gender neutral. That was fucking intentional. Because I know that although most rapists (of female and male victims) will be male, there are female rapists out there. I wasn’t forgetting anything in my post, and you certainly didn’t add anything to it.
Know any queer folk that would let someone crash on their couch/floor this weekend? Starting work as a stagehand at the Greek and I need somewhere near campus to sleep... Get out at like 2am Friday and Saturday. ):
The greek up in Berkeley or down in LA?
it’s interesting but also terrifying to see the ways that capitalism has shaped our language and how we talk about bodies. can you be useful? can you be a productive member of society? can you work? can you make money? that is all this comes back to. so much ableist and fat phobic rhetoric is, at its core, does your body enable you to produce capital. if not, then you are useless and don’t deserve humanity.
And also how the body makes you a good consumer. Marx does such an incredible job of talking about the body within a capitalist framework in Estranged Labour. For example:
The worker becomes all the poorer the more wealth he produces, the more his production increases in power and size. The worker becomes an ever cheaper commodity the more commodities he creates. The devaluation of the world of men is in direct proportion to the increasing value of the world of things. Labor produces not only commodities; it produces itself and the worker as a commodity – and this at the same rate at which it produces commodities in general.
I think of this section in relation to the body, to ableism, and to how even, even as identity politics has moved marginalized identities into more visibility, they are all enveloped into the capitalist machine. This has been notably discussed regarding the LBGT community. (If only Marx was more aware of gender!)