December 2011
Day 31 with HPV.
hpvoutlet:
I’m ready to start this new year off right with a positive out look and gain more strength to deal with this. Being upset isn’t getting me any better.
I’m spending new years eve with my boyfriend, I’m glad I get to start of this new year with someone I love.2011 wasn’t all bad, it’s just been challenge and I have to overcome that. I’m thankful to have began and ended it with someone...
objectification
mntcndtn:
instrumentality: the treatment of a person as a tool for the objectifier’s purposes;
denial of autonomy: the treatment of a person as lacking in autonomy and self-determination;
inertness: the treatment of a person as lacking in agency, and perhaps also in activity;
fungibility: the treatment of a person as interchangeable with other objects;
violability: the treatment of a person...
feminist historian: Sex Positive Parenting: Kids... →
sexpositive:
This is the first of hopefully many in a series called Sex Positive Parenting. As something I discuss with people in many contexts, part of being sex positive is providing a sex positive environment for the entire family. This includes honest conversations with children and…
snafuzzy asked: I've never really talked talked to you (I don't know why I do the double word thing but it works for me), but your tumblr is great. It's all the questions people seem to be afraid to ask themselves, others, and who they are with. I like the fact that you do it in a way that makes people feel comfortable. They are questions people need to be asking, and should not be afraid to ask....
snafuzzy asked: Love the kindy hair doll diy reblog. I have naturally curly hair, however it's in between straight and kinky like that. Took me forever to figure out what styling products to use to make it manageable to my own liking (as in 13-15yrs old). I was never into dolls growing up, but went through the cabbage patch era and like them. My mom found me one one year (a talking one) that had curly hair...
Top 25 Significant Queer Women of 2011 →
Sex Ed 101: What You Didn’t Learn →
bedsider:
Great article from GeNYU (and not just because it mentions us and our fabulous intern Khalea), about sex ed beyond high school.
Anonymous asked: Hi, I wanted some advice about how to tell someone you're interested in that you have HSV. A (newer) friend and I have expressed interest in each other, but before it goes anywhere I have to tell him, and I'm terrified.
t0nnerre asked: hey, i am so sorry for your loss of your grandmother- i hope you and your family are doing alright. As well, i recently took 3 of my birth control pills late, and i started my period before i was supposed to. this period has lasted slightly longer than they normally do, but has been really light. i continued taking my pills as normal, but just wanted to check with you- this could be due to the...
Anonymous asked: Hi I love your blog! I know that you don't have HSV orally, but I wondered if you knew how long after infection you'd expect an expression? I have HSV genitally, and I don't know if I have it orally.
Study: Majority Of Young Evangelicals Have... →
prolongedeyecontact:
The religious right has a heavy-hand in conservative politics, particularly in an election year. Christian presidential candidates like Gov. Rick Perry (R-TX), Rep. Michele Bachmann (R-MN), and former Sen. Rick Santorum (R-PA) all tout their Christian credentials and signed the pro-life pledges to court the evangelical vote. But there is one traditional position that even...
LGBT inclusive nativity scene vandalized →
gaywrites:
At a church in southern California, a nativity scene depicting same-sex couples was vandalized in what’s being considered a hate crime.
Claremont United Methodist Church has a history of putting up nativity scenes with social or political messages. This year’s display included lightboxes showing three couples holding hands - a man and a woman, two men and two women.
Sometime before...
Weekly Links Roundup 12/30/11 - Condoms, Safe Sex,...
onecondoms:
Happy Friday ONE® Condoms Enthusiasts. Today is our last post of 2011 and we want to bring you into the new year with the most up to date news regarding safe sex, sex education, and condom use. Be sure to practice safe sex this holiday season with ONE® Condoms!
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Porn Film Condom Proposal Qualifies for Los Angeles Ballot, But City Objects
California’s...
The First Feminist Book Swap!
becauseiamawoman:
thefeministbookcollective:
Okay so here is how I’m thinking it will go. First fill out the form and submit it either in the ask box or requests form. I will not post any of them publicly and I will delete them after recording it, so you don’t have to worry about putting your information out there on the internet. After the forms are submitted, I will match people with books...
Sex Positive New Year's Resolutions
sexpositive:
Even though the majority of New Year’s Resolutions fall flat, here’s a list of five resolutions to enhance your sex positivity at any time through the year. You can pick or choose from this list, or just work on the ones that are more individual-based or partner-based. Have a happy, healthy, and sex positive New Year!
1. I will indulge in fantasies. Discuss your fantasies with...
Renate
A short while ago, my grandmother took her last breath. My parents have been in England on and off all year taking care of her as she has transitioned. I have never seen a body with no life in it before, but I saw one today and it was my Grandmother. She looked absolutely beautiful. When people say the word “grace” they mean the way my grandmother looked, absent of a heartbeat, of...
Resources for Male Survivors
TW: rape, assualt
tommyxvx:
letstalkaboutrape:
I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
www.malesurvivor.org
www.violenceunsilenced.com
www.rainn.org
www.pandys.org
www.1in6.org
www.soulspeakout.org
http://finallyfeminism101.wordpress.com/
Thanks everyone!
Thanks to the people that sent me...
Anonymous asked: Thank you for giving a good definition of asexuality for the last Anon.
“Like all of us, I live in a culture that both celebrates and condemns overt...”
– Andrea Zanin, www.sexgeek.wordpress.com (via sweetprecisionsoftcollision)
New issue of Films for the Feminist Classroom... →
radicalqueery is accepting submissions!
radicalqueery:
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Anorgasmia
honeyedexcrements:
Definition: Anorgasmia is an inability to reach orgasm and is thought to occur in about 10% of women. Anorgasmia may be either primary (the woman has never been able to reach an orgasm by any means) or secondary (an orgasm was experienced at some point in the past). It may also be global (orgasm is not experienced by any means) or situational (orgasm may be experienced in...
Anonymous asked: what is asexuality?
Angela Tucker's (A)sexual documentary
asexualnyc:
This inspirational film premiered at an LGBTQ film festival in NYC in July. For people who weren’t able to make it, Pianycist organized another showing last month in New Jersey. Who knows? Perhaps we’ll be able to organize another film screening in the future!
Anonymous asked: How do you treat vaginal fissures? I think I have them...
Advice Columnist Downplays Sexual Assault as Sleep... →
TW: rape, sexual assualt
ladybitchez:
“My husband said that while I was fast asleep one night he had intercourse with me. He thinks it’s acceptable since I’m his wife. I feel it’s almost the same as rape. It’s my right to go to sleep and know nothing will happen to me. I should be able to feel safe.
To do that without a person’s consent while they are unaware surely can’t be right. What do you...
Anonymous asked: hi! I loveee your blog. It's helped me out alot since I've been diagnosed with Hsv2. Which led me to think you might have some advice for me. (: My boyfriend and I both have Hsv2, which is fucking amazing. (you know what I mean) we haven't had sex or anything yet. and I was just wondering, if you thinks its safe to have oral sex and everything without anything happening? since we...
HPV Tumblr →
For anyone living with HPV, check this tumblr out. She blogs each day about her experience/feelings and answers questions! Another brave soul sharing in their experience of living with an STD. <3
top surgery!
brennando:
I have 55 days left to reach my goal for top surgery. So far (16 days in) I’m already 22% there. :) If you’re able to donate a nice comment or a few dollars I’d appreciate it immensely. There are cool perks for donating, too. Check them out. :)
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Help Brennan reach his goal!
Anonymous asked: im a 16 year old girl who just got diagnosed with herpes and im devestated but your blog definitly makes me feel better. but i was curious if you have any advice or things i should know to help cope with this? thanks
That Blog About That Queer Kid: How to Still Have... →
iragray:
Are you afraid that your dysphoria will render you incapable of having enjoyable sex? Do you avoid having sex (assuming you want to to begin with) because you’re not sure how you’ll react? These are perfectly valid concerns, and no one should tell you otherwise. This post isn’t meant to pressure you into having sex and should not be used by partners of trans* folks as such. This is for...
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Is your child sexually savvy? →
drtrinaread:
Study after study has proven that a child who is educated and comfortable with their body and their sexuality will abstain from inappropriate sexual acts. I call it being sexually self-confident. As well, I believe it is just plain smart to have kids well versed in sexuality before they go off into their MTV world.
This is an interesting article and very problematic.
1....
Anonymous asked: So I have always dated girls but now I have my first boyfriend, and I am terrified of giving him a blowjob. I guess I think I won't know how to do it? Any tips or basic info?
Margot
Went to my Professors house today. Amazing - like a glimpse of a potential future. Her home is beautiful. Safe, open and loved. African art covers her walls, and not because she bought it from an art dealer, but because she brought it back from Kenya. Brazilian statues, Mexican art, Haitian sketches. A study filled with African history, Feminist Lit, Gender theory. We sat and ate bagels and spoke...
“You are born of sex. Your every body cell is a sex cell, all your energy is sex...”
– Osho (via sacraments)
Funding grants for Young Femininists →
newwavefeminism:
check it out and spread the word!
CALL FOR PROPOSALS 2011-2012
FRIDA | The Young Feminist Fund mobilizes resources, funds and strengthens the participation and leadership of young feminist activists globally. The goal of The Young Feminist Fund (FRIDA) is to provide accessible, strategic and responsive funding for young feminist-led initiatives, and to strengthen the capacity...
Better Health | Foreskin Care →
Anonymous asked: Is it possible to get your mouth tested to see of you have hsv1 or 2 in the mouth? If so how?
Anonymous asked: I know that you have probably heard this a million times, but now that I have HSV, will I never be able to receive oral again without infecting my partner? :( I know I can live without it, I was just uncertain.
A Response Regarding Sexual Objectification and...
allthebirds:
[Rachel’s Note: Someone sent us this quick anonymous note in response to comments I made about objectification. This is more of a feminist discussion than one specifically about Joanna Newsom, but I wanted to respond. So I did. As always, being a feminist is about engaging in conversations about these topics and I never claim to have all the answers or be an expert (at all)....